Saturday, July 26, 2014

Am I Too Picky? Or Are You Just Refusing To Accept Nonsense?

I am 30 years old and single.  I have heard so many times that the reason why I am still alone is because I am too picky.  It seems that the conversation I have with most women, is they just find a man and it does not really matter weather they love them or not.


This is a new concept to me, but apparently everyone woman on the planet seems to think they can look past not loving someone and still want to marry them.  As I spoke to a friend of mine who had been married before, she told me the next time she was going to get married, that she was going to get married for love.

This confused me, I wanted to ask her why did she get married the first time?  It does not really make sense to be married to someone you do not love, seeing as how you expect to spend the rest of you life with them and all.

Some of my criteria for a man include him having a job, being a Christian, me being attracted to him, his own place, commonsense, intelligent, a good person, and a good role model.

I do not feel these things are picky, I feels these things are completely normal.  Why would I want to have someone with no job, no money, and someone who cheats on me all for the sake to say I am with someone?

I will give you a real life example.  I once met a guy, a lawyer in fact.  He offered that we workout in the morning before work.  That morning when I came over to his home, he did not answer the phone.  I could not get up to his apartment because it had a code.


Therefore I did what any normal woman would do at 6 am who came to meet someone.  I waited until someone else went in and then I came in behind them.

When I knocked on his door, the man was shocked to see me.  He asked how I got in because the building was suppose to be locked.  After about 20 minutes of sitting in his apartment waiting for him to get ready, his alarm goes off, for him to wake up.

In case you do not know what this means, let me explain it to you.  He had no intentions of meeting me.  He set his alarm for a good 40 minutes after I was supposed to meet him.  His plan the whole time was to have me waiting outside his building until I went away.   In the back of my mind, I knew I would never see this man again.

When I got to work I told my tale to a co-worker.  She explained to me that because I wanted to get marred I should not make a big deal about this, and accept the fact that he basically attempted to stand me up.

I looked at her in much bewilderment.  I took time out of my schedule to get up early to meet this man so that we could go running downtown (he lived near where I worked).  This man could not even respect me enough to get up out of his bed and keep his word to me.  And it was intentional!

This ladies is not being picky.  This is expecting someone to be respectful to you and keep their word (read my blog here on keeping your word).

Since when did expecting a man to be respectful to you, mean that you have high expectations?  And what is worse, when did women start to feel that expecting a man to keep his word, have a job, and take you out on a date was too high.


I am not willing to let anyone tell me that I am too picky.  I feel that this is what men tell you to make you feel bad about yourself so that they can get away with crap!

The crazy thing is I could go on and on and tell you date after date and story after story when men try to run game just to get you to think they are something special when they are not.



Man know that woman want to get married, and so they use it against us.  They try to convince us that we should accept the breadcrumbs they throw out because we are the ones in need of their attention.

My ex, tried to get back with me once, or a few times. Or he just wanted sex, who knows.  When I told him we were just on two separate pages....no we were in two separate books all together.  He told me there were so many women that had it together but not many men like him.  And therefore I should be lucky that he shows me any attention.  SAY  WHAT!

Let’s recap on my relationship with him, he cheated, did nothing around the home (we lived together), did not pay rent, bills, crashed his car and used mine (sometimes without permission).  And even though he was in a better place in life now, what on Earth would make me want to go back to nonsense.  What is he smoking !!!

And what is worse, is that me saying no, was somehow shocking to him.  Because women are supposed to accept anything.

I know this was a bit of a rant, but my point is.  Do not let anyone tell you, you are too picky.  If there is a certain type of man you want, then wait until you get him.  Do not sell all for the sake of being married and spending the rest of your life with someone who thinks you are lucky to be with him.

It should be the opposite, if he really loves you, he should be thinking that he is lucky to be with you.  Women you are not too picky.  It is just time for men to step their game up and stop being little babies who want to live off of us, hurt us, do what they want to do, and tell us that we should accept it because at least we have a man.

In closing, if you want to hear more about my relationships mayhem.  Read about it in my book.  Click below for more info.

Friday, July 25, 2014

God Doesn’t Expect Us To Be Perfect, But He Does Expect Us to Try.

There are so many Christians and unbelievers that feel God expects perfection from us in order for us to have a relationship with Him.  I have heard Christians say:

 “I will start going church once I stop this addiction, or once I stop having these sexual thoughts.”  But this is faulty thinking.

God does not expect us to be perfect when we come to Him, the only thing He requires us to do is try. If we come to Him as we are, then He will give us the grace to stop the behavior that we know we should not be doing.  But the key it to come to Him first.

Let’s take Noah

The Bible states “When he drank some of its wine, he became drunk and lay uncovered inside his tent.” Genesis 9:21

Noah has moments of imperfection, and he had moments of drunkenness, but yet and still God chose to use him.  As a result he is one of the more prominent men of the Bible.

And Moses

The Bible states that “he killed the Egyptian and hid him in the sand.” Exodus 2:12

Moses, was a murderer and even tried to hide his crime after the fact. But yet in God’s infinite mercy and wisdom, He saw things in Moses that Moses did not see in himself.  Even more so yet another prominent man of the Bible (who did many miracles) was used to do God’s work, even in his imperfection.


David is famously known for being a man after God’s own heart.  But have you ever read the Bible to really understand how much David would stumble time and time again.  And when he stumbled, he stumbled big time.

The first was David’s adulteress affair with another man’s wife.  “She came to him, and he slept with her.  Then she went back home.  The woman conceived.” 2 Samuel 11:4-5.

Not only did David have sex with another man’s wife and get her pregnant, but then he covered the sin by having her husband sent to the front lines of war and killed! And this was only after, he brought the husband home and tried to convince him to sleep with his wife, so he could pass the baby off as his (See 2 Samuel 11).  How is that for drama?

So yes David defeated Goliath, but he also committed many sins in the eyes of God, but yet God still loved him.  It is not that God loved his sin, but he loved David’s effort to please him.



God looks at the heart, no human (with the exception of Jesus) can ever be perfect, and God knows that.  It is a great thing for you and me, that God gives A’s for effort.  For those times, in which we fall short, God is there to meet us halfway.  Or better yet more than halfway, all we have to do is take the first step.

Exodus 3:11-12 states  “But Moses said to God, “Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt? And God said, ‘I will be with you.’”

Even though we feel that we are not perfect or not good enough, God promises us that He will be with us, carry us, and lift us up to make up for our shortcomings.  He does not expect perfection, God just wants us to put forth the effort.

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Are You A Woman Worth More Than Rubies? Or Are You Selling Yourself Short?

A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Proverbs 31:10

I often find this verse about women very interesting.  For many who do not know diamonds are great but rubies are better and more rare.  So what an interesting concept that this verse would put a good women in such high esteem.


I was having a conversation with my mother.  She told me about a girlfriend, which was younger than my mom, and she felt obligated to sleep with a man after three dates.  Her rationale was because he spent money on her, took her to nice restaurants, and she felt that she had to give him something in return.

Where does this mentality come from?  Since when do you have to reward a man with your body just because he took you on a few dates.  The reason why I opened up with the above verse is because is a good woman is worth MORE than rubies, then how much does it take for you to be bought.

If it is going to take three dates, a purse, and a pair of shoes for you to give up your body, then I do not know to tell you.  Are you a women that is worth more than rubies?  If so, then you should be woman that cannot be bought.  And the only way a man should be able to get to you is if he gives you something that is worth more than rubies. This includes a ring on your left ring finger and a walk down the aisle declaring you as his wife.

I was once like the women out there, so lost, so confused, listening to men that had no sense and allowing them to talk me out of what is valuable.  What I have come to learn that you are actually putting price tag on something that God says in invaluable.

Isn't this an interesting concept in which society has talked us into rewarding men for doing their job.  I am not saying that it is man’s job to buy you everything in the world, but taking you out to get to know you is what they are suppose to be doing.  There is no reward for that.  That is normal behavior.

The world in which we live the roles have certainly changed.  What happened to the days in which men actually want to court women?  There whole purpose for getting to know you, was to see if they wanted to make you their wife.  Not to get inside of your pants or use you.

Men no longer see the value in marriage because women no longer see value in themselves.  They do not see themselves as something that is worth more than rubies.  Women now feel it their obligation to chase, pay for, run down, and be on the prowl for men.  In turn a man does not even have to try, they can just sit back relax and see which woman is willing to jump high enough to win his affection.

And when you really get down to it, their affection really isn't much.  When you historically look at some of the men in the Bible think of this.

Jacob worked 14 years for free in order to win the affection of Rachel (read my blog here).

David heard that whoever slayed Goliath would be able to take the king’s daughter for marriage, and so he slayed Goliath and countless of other men in battle to win her affection.

And Boaz, he made provision for Ruth when she was broke and hungry.  If you actually read this book of the Bible, Boaz went above and beyond to show his affection for Ruth (see blog here for more).

And guess what?  They did not expect anything in return for the woman as a way to show them gratitude.  This type of behavior was expected from them, because they were men.

This all sound fairy tale and romantic.  But I am convinced that there are men that are still out like this.  Women must stop selling themselves short and allow the man to be a man.  Most importantly women need to learn when a man is not this, then let go.  Do not try to hang on to something that is broken and try to make him into a man he isn't.

I know this may sound harsh.  But trust me I have wasted years trying to make a man into something they simply were not.  I tried to carry all the burden on my own up until the point that the man was just lazy.


It was at a point that I had to step back and stop hurting myself.  I say hurting myself because that is what I was doing.  I was getting into relationships that I knew the men were not willing to be men.  When you learn to let go, realize that it is their issues and not yours, a tremendous weight will be lifted off your shoulders.

You have a worth, it is something that is far more than rubies.  A price that is much more rare that diamonds.  A price that cannot be matched by simply anyone.

If you could imagine yourself being a princess would you marry anyone less that royalty.  Don’t  you think you deserve to be with a prince.  Not some hobo off the street that can’t even get up, take a bath, and get a job.

The thing about being a daughter of the most high God.  You are a princess.  You are royalty.  Even though God loves us all, some people have forgotten their royal position and have given it up and choose to live a life less than what they are capable of.  Less that what God wants them to live, and for some reason, some women have gave up their royal position as well, to take the place of a concubine instead of a wife.

I know this may sound harsh, but I want you to see it like it really is.  What princess deserves to be a concubine, sharing your man with several other women and no commitment.

Reclaim your royal position and wait for your prince.  Trust, it will come.

Thursday, July 24, 2014

The True Meaning of Being a Submissive Woman

Submissiveness in a wife is something I felt lead to talk about.  With the world the way it is today, people would like to lead Christians women into believing that submissiveness is a thing of the past.  Before you women, get up in arms and stop reading.  I would like to explain what submissiveness is and is not.

Being a submissive wife does not mean that you are going to be a maid, answering every little call of your husband.

It does not mean that you are going to be his share cropper, indentured servant, sex slave, or anything other form of slavery.

It does not even mean that you have to agree with every little thing that comes out of his mouth.

You are a unique person, God made you this way.  Submissiveness does not mean that you lose your personal identity and turn into a scene from the movie Coming To America.  You know the one in the beginning where the prince was about to get married to his betrothed and the answer to all the princes questions were “ Whatever it is that you like.


The prince did not like this about her in the movie and men won’t like it about you.  No one wants a bobble head to say “ yes dear” to everything.  So get that whole idea out of your head.

It is my personal opinion that no system can be effective if there are too many leaders.  Everyone cannot want to be a leader in your household.  This leads to utter chaos.

Let me explain it in a way that is easy to understand. We have a president this would be the equal to your husband.  The president has the senate, congress, and all other type of systems to help him make informed decisions, but the president has the ultimate say so.

(Let’s not get into politics of what has or has not gone on with the president this is just an illustration).
The other government agencies would be the wife.  Even through the president has the ultimate decision to make, he will always take the opinions of the other organization around him into consideration for the good of the people (your household, kids, etc).


This means if you are a wife or for single women who wish to become a wife.  Your husband or future husband should not ignore your opinion and do whatever he wants to do weather it is good for the family or not.  It means that when a decision is made, (this is why it is so important to choose a GOOD husband).  He will made the decision based off of everyone needs and not just his own.  Because at the end of the day, as a wife you must go with his decision.

Why? May you ask.  Because if you have a opinion on how something must be done and your husband has another opinion.  You will just keep going back and forth over and over again and nothing will get solved.

So one person needs to be the designated head of household and whatever he determines the decision is, as his wife you agree with it.

Let me pull out a Bible verse to give you a better understanding.

Ephesians 5: 28-29

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.  After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church

Do you see here?  If a man loves you like he loves himself.  He should not abuse your submissiveness and use it for weakness.  No good, God fearing man should do that.  A good husband should always treat his wife like himself, and if he does not want to hurt himself then he should not want to hurt his wife. Make sense?

So really being submissive should not be this dreadful thing you have to do because you feel that it is your obligation.  For married women who have married a selfish man and he does not consider your feelings.  Then under God’s law you still have to be submissive.

Go to God about it and pray that God speaks to his heart and change him.

For you single women, this is SO important what I am about to say.  I do not want you to miss it.  This is why knowing this as a single woman you are at an advantage.  The reason being because you have to stop being SO DESPERATE to find a man that you remain objective.

When you met a man and get serious about him.  Always look at how he treats you.  If he is disrespectful and treats you like crap now, then he is not going to change when you two get married.

As a single you are still free to dump a loser or a non Godly man and make the right decision to choose someone that God would chose for you.



For myself I am highly opinionated and independent.  I am sure it will play against me no doubt when I get married.  This is why I must be very careful in understanding the type of man that I want to submit to.  I want to submit to a man that respects my opinions and honors them as oppose to just disregards them and does what he wants to do.

Think about it.


By Way Of The Holy Spirit



For nearly all of my life I could technically say I was a Christian.  I was brought up to know and believe that Jesus Christ was my Lord and Savior, and He was someone who died for my sins.  Throughout my teenage years and young adult life I read the Bible and sought God.  During those times, I knew that I was a Christian, but I did not know God.

To me, God was some force somewhere out in the universe that I would pray to out of ritual and obligation.  Pray to keep my family safe, pray for the things I wanted, and pray the Lord’s Prayer.  After all, I felt these things were required of me, these were the things taught in the Bible right?  I would openly sin, and felt as long as I asked for forgiveness from God through Jesus Christ, then it was okay and I would go to heaven. Not understanding the concept of true repentance.

I cannot recall the exact date and time, but it was in my early twenties that I somehow noticed there was a voice talking to me in my head.  When I was down, I would hear a voice giving me peace.  When I was confused, there was a voice giving me clarity.  When I was lost, there was a voice giving me direction.

For quite a while I did not understand this “voice” but I long suspected that it was the “voice” of God.  Throughout more learning of the Bible, I came to understand that this voice was the Holy Spirit.  I had always heard in church and other religious gathering people say in the “Name of the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit.”

I knew who the father was (God) and I knew who the son was (Jesus).  But who and what is the Holy Spirit and what was its purpose. When speaking to others, I was told that it was speaking in tongues.  It wasn't until I read 1 Corinthians 12:30 “All do not speak with tongues.”  This verse explained that the Holy Spirit manifest itself in many ways to different people, not just tongues.

Through prayer to God, finally He gave me the answer through the Holy Spirit, and it was simple.  The Holy Spirit is the spirit of God.  The way in which Jesus prayed to God and received an answer about all the things He asked, is the same way God can communicate to us through the Holy Spirit.

The Holy Spirit can tell you what God’s will is for you life, comfort you, tell you what you are to do, what direction you should go, what to pray, what God wants, and so much more.  It really is an amazing thought. Now that I can understand the Holy Spirit I am able to openly have a conversation with God throughout the day, all the time.  I no longer feel that I am praying a God in the sky as a habit to prove that I am a Christian.

So many people, like I was in the past, miss the voice of the Holy Spirit because they feel the idea of having a conversation with God is not possible.  They feel God is some force that we worship and pay homage to, and He does not have the time or care to answer us “humans” back.

I have come to learn that it is the opposite.  This is what God wants; to speak to His children.  When have you ever known any good parent that does not want to openly communicate and have a relationship with his children?  It is my fear, that people not understanding the Holy Spirit or its purpose, that they will miss out on a wonderful communion with a perfect person who is God.

When you grasp this concept, you realize that you are never alone, never abandoned, and you always have someone to talk to. Not only is God there, by way of the Holy Spirit for the tough times; but He is there when we want to talk, when we have lost a loved one, an ending of a relationship, when we do not know what to do next, or when we feel that no one understands us or what we are going through.  Not only is the Holy Spirit there to listen, but He talks back.  And His answers are always right.

When you think about God in this way.  Having a Holy Spirit that dwells in you, is like always having a private phone line to God.  You know He will always answer and you can call Him anytime of the day.  It makes your problems seem a little bit smaller and your life a bit more significant, to know that God cares for you that much.

I Choose Joy!

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

10 Tips For A Christian Wife

For women who are married, you may have thought marriage was an end to all of your problems. Your pictured a life being a continuous re-run of the Brady Bunch where there is no yelling, screaming, or arguing. You saw yourself being a caring wife married to a doting husband, with children that need no correction because they are perfect.  Now that married life has set in, your life is anything like what I described.

You want to be a Godly wife and raise a Christian family, but the Christian family seems to be outdated and impossible to achieve. Well, there is great news.  Here are the 10 tips to help you to be a good Christian wife.

Tip 1:  “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.” Proverbs 13:11

As a wife, it is not requirement for you to be perfect, but it is a requirement that you gain the trust of your husband so that he has confidence in your ability to be his wife.

Just think of how many things you do as a wife that keeps your husband from trusting you completely.  Are you lying to him? Disregarding his opinion (which shows him that what he thinks does not matter)? Are you spending all of the household income, after your husband has told you time and time again not to?

These things cause problems in a marriage.  Trust is the foundation of a marriage and it is your obligation as a wife to make your husband trust you.

 Tip 2:  “She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” Proverbs 13:12

This verse speaks about physical hurt and emotional hurt. Are you uplifting your husband or demoralizing him?  Do you call him names?  Do you flirt with other men weather he is around or nor?

All of these things cause your husband to be hurt and to lose faith in you.  Everything you do, every action you take, think “is this harming my husband?  Is this going to cause him embarrassment or cause him to be ashamed?”  If what you’re doing would not make your husband proud, then don’t do it.


Tip 3. “She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants.” Proverbs 13:15


Do not take this verse out of context as it saying you should be a maid that caters to every single need of your husband and family.  It simply means that unless you work the night shift, you should not be sleeping until 2pm allowing your kids to run around unsupervised tearing up the house.

You should be up, doing something productive with your time.   If you see groceries are getting low, then go get more or if your children needs assistance with their homework then help them. Wives are the overseers of the home.  If your home is dysfunctional as the wife, you play a part to ensure it runs smoothly again.

Tip 4.  “She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.” Proverbs 13:18

There are some wives who go out, as if they were single.  When you become married you make a commitment to your husband. You have an image to uphold.  When you go out, come back at a reasonable time and do not go out every night.  Wear respectable clothing. You can still look nice and have fun without looking like you should be standing on the side of the street in “prostitution town.”  


 Tip 5.  “She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.” Proverbs 13:20

Do not think you have to turn your home into a soup kitchen or open it to the homeless.  There are many ways you can help people that fits your lifestyle. Do you know a friend that needs help? Are you able to volunteer? Giving to the needy can be about helping anyone like donating money or clothes.  It keeps you humble and grounded as well.

Tip 6 “She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.” Proverbs 13:22

With the prevalence of social media, many women feel the way to get attention is to be plastered in public and on the internet as if they were auditioning to be on the next cover of Playboy.  “Fine linen and purple” is considered the clothing for royalty.  So dressing like a queen is a must.

Do not be literal thinking this means spending an arm and a leg on clothing, make-up, and shoes. It means putting some effort into your appearance.  You don’t have to look like you just stepped out of Italian vogue, but at least look presentable. So you going out on date night in bedroom slippers and a robe is a no no.

When your husband comes home, try to be sexy.  He does not want to come home to Medusa. You hair looking so wild that it looks like a pile of raging snakes on your head.  Be beautiful for your husband.

Tip 7. “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.” Proverbs 13:25

Reflect to see if your name is good around those around you.  What do they say about you?  Do they say your mean, selfish, careless, or don’t care about your kids or husband?  This all speaks to your dignity.  Possessing strength and dignity will cause you not to worry about what is ahead, because you know whatever comes at you, you have the strength to take it.


Tip 8. "She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.” Proverbs 13:26

If you run around with gossiping hens, then stop. When you are not around what do you think they say about you? The mouth has the ability to gossip, curse, yell, scream, put others down, spread lies, and the list goes on and on.  But you have the power to control your mouth, and use it for good for both your husband and family.

Tips 9. “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” Proverbs 13:30

Outward beauty fades, but if you are beautiful on the inside, then that will radiate out of you.   As you get older your looks change, things start to sag, fat starts to grow, you can try to remain your best but your appearance will change as time goes by.  It is only natural.  With the changing of your appearance, never turn into a bitter old lady that your husband will move heaven and Earth NOT to be around.
                                                                         

Tip 10. “It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.” Proverbs 21:9

Don’t be a nagging, angry, and quarrelsome wife. No one will want to be around you; not your husband and not your kids, NOT ANYONE.  I know you want your husband to fix the sink. I know you want him to do that thing that he said he would do six months ago.  But nagging about it is not going to make him want to do anything.  There is a way to do and say what you want without nagging. Master that skill!

Understand that as a woman, you are going to have bad days.  No one is going to be the picture perfect wife, it is not possible.  The point of this article is to get you to set your mind in being a joy in your husband’s life.  Even if you think that your husband is the problem, lead by example, and he will follow suite leading to a more fulfilling relationship and a better marriage.

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Stepping Out On Faith

A few weeks ago I read this wonderful book called the Dream Giver.  This may sound petty but I resonated so much with this book.  The whole premise of the book was how the Dream Giver (God) puts a dream in your heart and the first half of the book goes through a typical man that has a dream by God and all the struggles he has to go through to achieve that dream.

The reason why I fell in love with this bok is because God has put so many dreams in my heart.  And so many of them are so big that I do not know how I am going to achieve them.  I actually think this is a lot of people.  When God gives you a dream you can choose to follow it or you can choose to sit on it.

For those of us that choose to follow our God given dream, we often think that it is going to be a cake walk filled with calla lilies and dandelions along the way.  But so often our dream is filled with weeds and thorns.  We prick our selves, we trip, fall, perhaps even break some limbs, and it is in that moment that we have a decision to make.

Are we going to continue to trust God and the dream that He put in our heart? Or are we going to turn back and go back to a life that we loathe and fill unfulfilled in?

I have come to learn that following a God given dream is very hard.  You may expect for family and friends to understand you but they don’t.  They think you are absolutely crazy and want you to return back to THEIR sense of normal.

After all who stepped out on a random dream and actually succeeded?  I ask myself this question all the time.  But the answer is a lot of people.  As I asked myself this question I watched Joyce Meyer and Joel Osteen this week.  Both had some of the same ideals when it came to their dream.

Joyce was ostracized by her church because she was a female, many people did not support her and probably did not feel that she would be where she is today.  Joel, was often compared to his father, he was told after his father died that the church would fail.  

So often we see people in the here and now and see them being successful and we forget that behind their smile was a struggle.  Nothing really comes easy to people who step out on their faith to pursue a dream.  There were probably a thousands no’s to the one yes.  But that one yes is what made all the difference.  And even more so, the fact that they continued to follow their dream through the no’s makes their faith even stronger.

I think it takes a lot of faith in God for people to tell you, “you are nuts, your are following a pipe dream, or there is no market for what you are doing.”  All these things sound impossible, and for others who have tried it may be.

So what do you have that is different from so many people who have came before you and will come after you and have failed.  You have faith in God.  You have faith that God can do what He says He can do.  And even though you may not know how, even though you may not know when, and even though you may kick and scream on the trip there.  You still have faith that it will happen for you.

Stepping out on faith takes more than just saying it.  It is living it.  It is going in the direction that God has told you to go even when the direction seems impossible or never treaded on before.  Sometimes stepping out on faith means a huge risk.  Just like in the book the Dream Giver, it means going through being broke, scorned, ridiculed, misunderstood, lost, and a wavering of faith.

You may think “Am I insane?”  “ Did I hear God right?” or “ What makes me so special that God would choose me?”

At the end of the day you have to accept there may be no audible answers to your question.  You may go day in and day out and see no visible change in your situation.  Things may be falling apart all around you, but despite this you have to believe that out there somewhere God is sending down angels and they are endlessly working trying to make your dream come true.

Believing and not seeing is having faith.  The word faith sounds very nice when it means that it doesn't put you at a discomfort.  But when it does, it is very hard to keep.  But like the ending of that book.  Through everything, you have to trust that God is going to work out whatever He put in your heart.

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