Tuesday, October 6, 2015

The World Is Wrong!

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For any Christian we should be vigilant what is going on in the world today.  Because if we are not then we are going to miss it?

  You may be wondering what I am talking about and if this is some crazy end of times rant.  Well not really, but let me explain.

God speaks to anyone who is willing to listen to what He has to say.  And He wants to speak to us about any and every situation if we allow Him to.  Sometimes I sit and look at the world around me and understand that what God says is wrong had become social acceptable, and no one sees anything wrong with this.

The Bible warns that when the end times come it will come in the way of peace.  Now a a days we want to accept everything, everyone, and everybody’s behavior and not call crazy, crazy or stupid stupid.

For example, slut shaming.  To be clear to do not feel that shaming anyone is good.  But let’s be real, to advertise the fact that you are a “slut” and that women should be proud of that is misguided.  And for some reason, because we do not want to make anyone feel bad by rejecting their lifestyles, we accept the fact that a woman may want to sleep with anyone without any type of commitment.  Despite the fact that it goes against our very human nature.  When men and women have sex with each other hormones are released that tell them to attached to one another in a more emotional way.  God did not make our genetic make up to freely sleep with one another without the ability to connect on a deeper level.  So while downgrade ourselves to common animals having sex with one another like they do and then we want to call it okay so that we do not offend any one.

I am prolife.  I do not judge anyone that has had an abortion because that is their business.  But I will not accept that we should just disregard a unborn person as a blob of tissue that has no right to be born.  When you think of how many babies are aborted each year, that were made to be people, it is sad.  But we desensitize ourselves because we do not want to offend or judge anyone.

I do not want to judge anyone but it is okay to realize that wrong is wrong and crazy is crazy.  And weather you believe it or not when you end this life there is going to be a God at the end of that tunnel and you are going to have to explain everything that you have done.

I have done some wrong things, but when I realized that I am going to have to answer to God one day.  I sought to change myself. What could I tell God to make him understand me having sex with men I was not married to or emotionally connected to?  What could you say to God after having 5 abortions that could make Him understand your perspective?  What can you say to God for lying on someone, causing them to loose their job, for bullying someone so much that they kill themselves? Or many of the many many sins we do on a daily basis.  Whatever your justification is, I would love to hear it.  Because nine times out of ten He is not going to understand, especially when He sent himself to Earth and was able to suffer a beating AND be sinless all for you.  What can you say to Him that is going to make him understand your selfish ways.

We as people are not perfect.  I am no where near perfect.  But at least I know that.  At least I am able to see my wrong and call them wrong and not try to convince the rest of the world that my wrong doing is the right thing to do.

Christians fear  they will come off as Bible thumbing psychos because they believe what the Bible says.  Because they do not want to conform to the craziness that is going on in the world today.  So as a result they convince themselves that God’s word is outdated.  But God knew you before you were born, He knows everything that has happened and that is going to happen.  Never try to put our human intellect and rationale on God, because we will never understand it.

Some of us believe so much in horoscopes, the moon alignment, and psychics...but we do believe what God has to say? What sense does that make?

You have to be vigilant.  You have to not be afraid to stand up for what is right, for what God says is right, and not fall into a world of crazy because pop culture is telling you that is what you should do.  At the end of the day, when you die; you are responsible for you.  You cannot blame your wronging doings on anyone else but yourself.  When sometimes all it takes is a little common sense to know right from wrong.  Or that old phrase what would Jesus do?  If you do not think Jesus would approve of you having an orgy with 5 different people or if you do not think Jesus would do that; then do not do it.  It is just that simple.

5 Things I learned In My 20's VS My 30's

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Friday, September 18, 2015

5 Tips For The First Date

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Tuesday, September 15, 2015

How To Get The Job! What to wear, Hair, and Make Up (Interviewing Tips)

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Monday, September 14, 2015

God Wants To Take You From Where You Are, To Where He Wants You To Be

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So I recently moved.  And I can say that this was a change that I had been fighting for a long time.  I just did not move into another house, but I relocated all together.  I moved my son to a new school, I left the first home that I ever bought and one that I love dearly on the market, and last but not least I moved in with my mother!  I have not lived with my mother in 12 years!

But this was a lesson to me that I will share to you.  Sometimes we have to leave the familiar behind to get ready for bigger and better things.  I moved from Richmond, VA to the Washington, DC area.  Here they have better jobs and way more opportunities.  What was keeping me in Richmond anyway?  I did love my house, but at the end of the day I was not happy there.  I was fighting not wanting to move in with my mom and coming to a place that I thought I would not like. 

But when God calls you to move, you have no choice but to move.  Things are not going to work out unless you move.  The jobs I was in were low paying and filled with a lot of drama.  I had no family there, I am a single mother, and I had my home that I loved.  But at one point not only did I have to trust God but I had to do what was right for my son and myself.

My son wanted to be closer to his grandmother, my mother was lonely living in the DC area by herself, and I was stuck in a dead city (at least for me anyway).  So I decided to let go.  Since moving my son loves his school, I have a new job making pretty good money, and I do not feel as stressed out because I have help with my son.  And I only have been here for a month and a half.  

God will never ask you to move anywhere that He is not willing to go with you.  God knows exactly what you need before you even know what you need, you just have to stop fighting and trying to do things your own way; and trust God.  It may be hard because what God wants and what you want may be two different things.  But either you trust that God knows what is best for you and He has better plans for you then you have for yourself or you don’t.  Either you are going to hold on to the familiar knowing deep down that it does not make you happy or you are going to go into the unfamiliar trusting God completely. 

This can apply to so many areas of our lives.  It applies to us staying in toxic and destructive relationships; it applies to us not stepping into something that God had called us to do, or your unwillingness to move forward. 

I can recall many times in my life where I passed over opportunities.  I passed a chance to go to law school under a conditional acceptance because I did not want to leave my boyfriend at the time.   I did not want to move to another state because of yet another but different boyfriend that I did not want to leave behind.  I thought about what a mistake all of that was.  And even more so, I still ended up going back to school getting an advanced degree and I still ended up moving to another state and leaving my boyfriend anyway.  God did want He wanted to do with my life, even though it took me a while to follow suit.  

In closing are you resisting God or going with God?  And if you truly believe that God has a plan for your life, then whatever you are resisting is going to come to pass.  And you mine as well come into God’s purpose willingly, not like me kicking and screaming all the way.  Only to see that God was right all along.

Monday, September 7, 2015

Kanye West For President and Kim Kardashian as Our First Lady Don't Do It!

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Kanye as president and Kim K as the first lady would be the worst decision in American History.  Don't do it, and here is why.

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Sunday, August 30, 2015

My Top 3 Bad Online Dating Stories

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Story time.  Listen to my bad online dating experiences on three separate sites.  Match.com, Black people meet, and Plenty of fish. 

Thursday, August 20, 2015

5 Types of Men To Stay Away From

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Check out my latest video of five types of men that women should not date. 

Friday, August 14, 2015

People Are Made For Real Relationships Not Casual Encounters and Hook ups

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It seems as though people are starting to believe that humans are not made to mate for life and that we are meant to be with everyone at anyone and monogamy is somehow outdated.  This is insane to me.  Human beings were made in God’s image which means that we are not like animals.  We should not go around randomly having sex with a bunch of people and not connect on a deeper level.  This is not what we, as humans were made for.

Even if you do not understand the whole God dynamic, then understand that as women; scientifically we release hormones after sex that cause us to feel more attached to a person.  We were made to fall in love, and not jump from one person to the next with a whole slew of casual encounters.  It seems as if so many women and men are used to these “hook ups”  that even when they sleep with each other they do not know how to emotionally connect anymore.  They have learned to turn that part of themselves off.

Sex is supposed to be an extension of love or a deeper connection that you have with a person.  Yes its fun and it feels good. But it will feel a whole lot better if you actually love that person, want to grow with that person, and want a future with that person.  Not someone that after you are finish you have to leave or they leave and they do not even want to cuddle or touch you afterward.  And it is even worse if you are trying to convince yourself that this is how modern “relationships” work.

I have heard some women who do not want a relationship they only want sex and they somehow feel as though they are winning in these situations.  They tell me that when they are done they can just send the man about their own way, like they are the one getting the benefit or using him.  Umm no he is using you.  He is getting to have sex with you, have his satisfaction, and go home to girlfriend number 1-10 where he does the same thing with him and have the same type of “relationship” with them.

If you have a hard day and you want to talk to someone, you cannot even talk to him.  You cannot share things with him that you cannot share with anyone else.  You cannot experience the actual love part that goes on in the “love making” process.  I am sure the sex is like a porno.  No connection and just a bunch of pounding and roughness. But somehow, women seem to think that they are winning in this situation.  That this is good and that casual sex is something to strive for.

And men, they simply do not know any better.  One of my female friends went out with and slept with a man in which the sex was awful.  And she tried to talk to him about it and he said that he learned how to have sex from porn.  They soon broke up because of inability to be a boyfriend.  You see, this is where casual sex gets you.  In fact I dated a man a few years back before my celibacy days and he said that he had never been in love before.  He describe his sex as just a wham bam thank you man type situation and did not feel anything was wrong with it.  In fact, he thought that is what a women enjoyed.  And why shouldn’t he think that.  Women have more than likely slept with him and he practice his porn star sex techniques and they both went home thinking that this is something strive for.  Casual sex is the “thing” to do.  They tell themselves “Do not get attached, do not strive for relationships, pass yourself around, and be with everyone.”

And this is truly sad.  Not only is it sad, but this is why our marriage and relationships are falling part.  When people do try to get married, they get married off of sex.  When they have problems the do not know how to deal with them because they never had an emotional connection with one another, and it is too much work to deal with problems.  Or work things out with one another.  For many people, it is better to give up on a marriage and move on to another then it is to actually work through problems with one another.

At the end of the day, we all get old.  Beauty fades for all of us, I do not care how much plastic surgery you get.  And if people are basing their “relationships” off of beauty and sex alone, the they will never be fulfilled.  And human beings are not made like the animals around us, we are made to have emotional connections with one another.  To build some deeper and better that goes beyond animals in heat mating in the jungle.  We were made for monogamy, to love and be loved.  And when we except that, instead of accepting this “sleep with everyone and have a relationships with no one” mentality, that is when we will start seeing healthier and happier couples.

Saturday, July 18, 2015

Why I Don't Have Sex?

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Check Out My Video On Why I Decided To Stop Having Sex 

How To Talk To God?

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It it surprising to me how many Christians are unaware that they can speak to God and that God actually speaks back.  After all, when you think about it, isn’t this the basis of Christianity.  After Jesus died there was something that we call the Pentecost in which the Holy spirit came into believer.
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“When the day of Pentecost came, they were all together in one place.  Suddenly a sound like the blowing of a violent wind came from heaven and filled the whole house where they were sitting.  They saw what seemed to be tongues of fire that separated and came to rest on each of them.  All of them were filled with the Holy Spirit and began to speak in other tongues as the Spirit enabled them.”
Acts 2:1-5 

So the idea of the Holy Spirit is confusing to some people since on the day of Pentecost, people spoke in tongues and different languages.  But that is not just what the Holy Spirit is about.

“Do we all have the gift of healing? Do we all have the ability to speak in unknown languages? Do we all have the ability to interpret unknown languages? Of course not!” Corinthians 12:30

So here you see that Holy Spirit is not about speaking in tongues, or even healing.  The Holy Spirit gives different gifts in different ways.  It is about the direction that God gives us in order to go about our lives.  For this reason, I do not understand why so many people trust other people in what God has to say for their lives.  I mean can’t they hear God themselves?  Of course we can go to other people and get confirmation, however to trust solely on what other people tell us about our lives is not wise.  Because they may not understand what God is telling you, they may discourage you from what God is telling you, and that is the reason why God is telling you not them.

The thing about the Holy Spirit is that the Holy Spirit will speak to you in a way that is best for you.  I feel that this can include words or pictures.  In whatever way that God chooses to talk to you is the way that He chooses to talk to you, and you must be open to the way that God speaks you in order to hear God clearly.  And being able to recognize the fact that God talks you makes it easier to hear God talking to you.

I guess that I am getting at is that so many people ask how they can talk to God or how they can hear from God?  Well it is easy just simply open up your mind, your hear, and be receptive to what God has to say to you.  It may take some practice at first, to hear what God is saying or knowing that God is actually speaking to you, but once you do; you will know where God is leading you, what He is telling you to do, and then you cannot go wrong. Listening to God and knowing God’s voice will help prevent you going down the wrong path and doing a whole bunch of stupid stuff

I can recall so many times that I heard God not telling me to do something or get involved with someone, and me doing it anyway causing myself a harm because I should have listened to God.  I can recall that listening to God has kept me out of trouble.  Trouble that I did not even know what coming at the time was going to be trouble. Just because the idea of talking to God may sound crazy in this day and age where so many people are moving away from the traditional value of God, does not mean that we still cannot communicate with God.  And allowing someone to tell you that talking to God and Him talking back to you is crazy will only undermine your belief system.  What is Christianity if only about having a relationships with God?  What is the whole point of the Holy Spirit?  Do you think God is just sitting there hoping that we get things right?  Or do you think that He has sent his spirit down done to us so that if we listen to it we know that we will get things right.

To all those people saying that I am crazy for talking to God and believing that He talks, back, I can tell them I can name a whole bunch of crazy going on in the world today that will override  the notion that me hearing from God is crazy.

Image result for hearing from godIn closing if you want to hear from God you can, open your mind and even your mouth to do so, and it is as easy as that.  I can recall when I was talking to God, I was not even aware that I was talking to Him.  I would just have a conversation with myself in my head and a voice would speak back to me and tell me what to do, console me, or make me feel better.  This went on for years before I realized that it was God talking to me.  See no one had ever told me that we could talk to God in that way and He could talk back.  I had to figure it out on my own.

 Which is why I am saving you time and telling you.  So that is about all for this post people, I hope you understand what I am saying and practice in your daily communication with God.  Trust me it helps.

Monday, July 6, 2015

The Single Girl Tag, Why I am Still Single. And Why I Love Being Single.

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Family Times Can Be The Best Time. My 4th of July Weekend VLOG

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This past weekend was not only the fourth of July Weekend but it was also my son's 7th birthday.  I went to visit my cousin in Jacksonville, NC.  People who know me know that I do not like spending money.  Spending money is not needed for you, your child, or your family to have a good time.  Here is my VLOG on what I did for my son's birthday and for my 4th of July weekend.