Monday, December 15, 2014

Grown Women Fighting Over Not So Grown Men.

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“In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, ‘We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!’” Isaiah 4:1

I can recall reading this Bible verse over the years, thinking that this type of behavior will never happen. What type of woman is willing to share her man all for the sake of not being disgraced? I think to have a better understanding of this verse, it must be dissected.

In that days refers to the ending of time.  This is not going to be a blog about the end of the world but the Bible teaches us

“Look at the fig tree and all the trees. When they sprout leaves, you can see for yourselves and know that summer is near. Even so, when you see these things happening, you know that the kingdom of God is near.” Luke 21:25-36

This may sound confusing, but all this is saying is took look for the signs that God tells us about the end of times.  And when we see these signs then we know the end is near.

This is why we must always read the Bible and see the signs that God is trying to show us regarding what will happen.

The next part of the verse states that “7 women will take a hold of one man and say ‘We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!’"

You see there was a time in which men were actually the head of households. Men took women out on dates, married them, and took care of them.  Men provided food for their families and clothing for their women.  Men knew how to take care of home.

Let’s fast forward to today.  There are some men who do all I just mentioned, but how many men do not want to take a woman out on a date?  This is a foreign concept to them.  How many women have taken the place of men and give men money, provided for them financially, and take care of themselves? The man does not have to do anything significant except for have sex with them from time to time, and women somehow feel this is sufficient.

Woman feel this way because they do not want to be alone.  They do not want to be single, they do not want to be without a man.  Is this not what the Bible verse is speaking about.  Women doing everything and the man doing nothing, just so long as they have the right to be called their woman.

It is crazy how we accept things in this world as being normal.  We watch reality shows, television shows, and even people we know.  We see women fighting each other over a man.  Each of them know about one another and trying to give the man more and more just so that he can choose her to be his girlfriend.  And the man is not really doing anything much to prove his worth as a man.

Why are women fighting each other over a man that is doing them both wrong? How is this a man worth fighting for?

Has women’s self esteem or the stigma of being single became that bad that women are willing to make fools out of themselves all for the sake of saying they belong to a man.

Do not allow anyone to tell you that what I am saying is outdated.  I work and I am educated.  I am not saying that women should sit on their behinds all day and expect a handout from a man.  But the only male that I take care of is my son.  I will not allow for a grown man to come into my home, sit on my couch, and watch television all day.  Him not contributing to the bills, providing food for us, or showing my son what a good man is NOT.

This simply makes no sense.  Why would I want to have two men in my home to take care of and one is not a child?

But this is the type of behavior that is going on all the time.  Children going without food, clothes, a mother, because she is out and about trying to keep, chase, and fight over a man.  Because she is spending money on buying a man a pair of Jordans as oppose to putting food on the table for her kids.

Since when has this way of life become so familiar and acceptable to us?
And then when you say something about it to men, they try to trick you into thinking that taking care of them is normal.  They try to convince you that they are a good man.

But how?

How can any man be good if they cannot take care of their children and expect another woman to do it?

If they cannot put food on the table?

If they cannot even stick to one woman and bounce around between women?

How are these characteristics of a good man?

I would love for someone to explain this to me.

“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.”  1 Corinthians 13:11

The point I am trying to make is to urge women not to fall into this trap of taking care of a man, fighting other women over a man, and allowing him to not be a man.  It is better to be alone than to deal with this nonsense.

I am convinced that all women must see what is going on in the world around us and be aware of the same things that God is trying to warn is about.  Fighting over a man and letting him escape all responsibilities of being a man is not the way that God intended it to be between man and woman.  It is now up to the women to just say not to foolishness and not allow themselves to be taken advantage of anymore.