I believe that there is a reason
and season for everything and every person that we meet (TWEET THIS). I know that this is a saying that is very prevalent,
but I think that we really have to reflect on what this means, especially as it
pertains to relationship and our lives.
The first thing is that everyone that enters your life is not going to be there in a positive way (TWEET THIS). Some people are not going to like you, some are going to talk bad about you, and there are times that you will be treated unfairly. It’s just the ways of the world. However, I think that we have to bring these ways into a new understanding. Often times, these ways are not to bring us down, but to build us up. And even though it feels like we are being pulled to the brink or insanity, when we are going through these things, like a lump of coal that has been through heat and pressure, its meant to make us come out like a diamond in the end (TWEET THIS).
The first thing is that everyone that enters your life is not going to be there in a positive way (TWEET THIS). Some people are not going to like you, some are going to talk bad about you, and there are times that you will be treated unfairly. It’s just the ways of the world. However, I think that we have to bring these ways into a new understanding. Often times, these ways are not to bring us down, but to build us up. And even though it feels like we are being pulled to the brink or insanity, when we are going through these things, like a lump of coal that has been through heat and pressure, its meant to make us come out like a diamond in the end (TWEET THIS).
I think the best Bible verse that can
explains this is “but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering
produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Romans 5:3-4
You see the thing is that if the
world was the way we wanted it to be 100% of the time, or if people treated us
the way that we wanted to be treated 100% of the time, then what type of person
would we be. If we never had a problem,
if no one was ever rude to us, if things always went right in our lives, then
how our strength as a person ever be tested, and if our strength is never
tested then how can we know how high we can jump or how far we can reach.
You see it is through the bad stuff, that makes us stronger, that makes us want to prove people wrong and make liars out of those when they told us we would not amount to anything. Once we know we are through the tough times and that we can still come out on top, then we know that the next time we cannot be so easily knocked down or swayed. Not only that, but we are able to recognize quicker and faster the people and things that are not good for us, because we would have already “been there and done that” and feel no need to repeat past mistakes.
You see it is through the bad stuff, that makes us stronger, that makes us want to prove people wrong and make liars out of those when they told us we would not amount to anything. Once we know we are through the tough times and that we can still come out on top, then we know that the next time we cannot be so easily knocked down or swayed. Not only that, but we are able to recognize quicker and faster the people and things that are not good for us, because we would have already “been there and done that” and feel no need to repeat past mistakes.
In my opinion, everyone was born
to be great. It is up to them weather
they get there or not (TWEET THIS). I do not care whether
you were born poor, molested; raped, beaten…..that is the bad stuff that can be
turned into a big testimonial to someone one day. Look at Joyce Myers. It’s no secret that she was molested and
raped by her father for years. Yes it
was a terrible thing, but look at her know.
Could she be any stronger in the father that she had in Christ had she not
endured the bad stuff. Or even more so,
that she forgave her father and lead him to Christ!
Look at Jesus’ life. He was born in a barn, with dirty smelly
animals and put into a contraption that animal their food eats out of. He lived
very poorly, had not real home to call his home, went against popular belief,
faced rejection, and although many loved him many hated him too, and last but
most certainly not least, he died a common criminal’s death. We often use words like he was born in a manger
in a stable, and lived a humble life, in which he was crucified. That sounds much different that the reality
of the situation. Jesus’ life was hard,
very hard. But I think it was
intentionally made this way. So that no
one can say, they ever had it harder than Him, on Earth. ….and yet and still he
was able to accomplish the mission that he was put on this Earth for. He didn’t dwell on what was not being done
for him, or who said what about him, he just did what he had to do, and worked
with what he had, and still came out on top.
The point that I am trying to make
is this. Do you wonder where your life
partner is, or what your point in life is?
Well I think that if you do then you have not gone through what you
needed to go through or learn what you need to learn in order for that person
or purpose to be there. In each relationship,
interaction, trail, tribulation…there is a lesson to be learned. Now, how fast you get through that lesson
depends on you.
I think it was Albert Einstein
that said “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over
again and expecting different results.” (TWEET THIS)
Let’s take this for a moment
here. If you are the type of person that
jumps in bed with a man too soon, and do it time and time again and wonder why
your relationships are not going anywhere….then you may be insane. Why do we as people want to revisit the same
path, the same person, or type of person and do the same things over and over
and expect the outcome to be different?
Why do we keep ahold of people that we know are not good for us, that
hurt us, that have no place in our future? Everything and everyone has a season you guys,
you have to go through it, learn from it, and then you have to let go.
The best way I can illustrated
this is if two women have the same exact destiny. One gets married at 28 and the other at 42. What went wrong since they have the same destiny?
Often times it goes like this, the 28
years old meets someone they know is no good for them. They are able to recognize that within weeks
that this person is not for them, and moved on. Within the same year they meet person A,B,
and C and within that year they were able to recognize that none of these
people are good for them. Not only did
they move on, but they took something out of each and every relationship and
made a change on the inside of them depending on the experience of the relationship. Eventually, she came to know herself, and she
knew what she wanted out of life, as well as what she wanted out of a partner,
and at the age of 28 she knew that she knew that she knew, she found that
person.
Let’s take the 42 year old. Instead of learning and growing. She would hold on to man A, knowing that he
was not the one, knowing that his type of love hurt, but still hoping it would
change. She held on for five years all
for the sake of wanting to get married, or not wanting to be alone, or not
understanding that the purpose was not for man A to be in her life for 5 years. However, she continued this pattern and
instead of going through B and C like the 28 year old did, learning from each experience. She held on to them each for years……..
keeping men that God was trying to pull away.
She did not learn from her experiences and added man D,E,F,G into the
mix. Slowing down her own destiny because
she was not moving fluently though life and not fulfilling or trying to understand
her purpose. Instead, she stumbled, and
stumbled, and stumbled, and when she did meet the right man, although grateful…
it really could have been done sooner had she been willing to let go of the
others, learn what she needed to learn, and move on. Sometimes we will settle and force ourselves
to marry person E, when it was never intended to be so, missing the mark
completely.
Often times it is ourselves that
are putting us through pain of life, by trying to hold on to what God is trying
to pull away. Not only that, but letting
it distract us from the purpose in life and because we are so focused on the
wrong things throughout our lives, we fall short of our great destiny and
settle for an average life. So I say this
to you, life is life. It is always going
to be hard, and we all have our burdens to bear. Some more than most. But if we get caught up on out burdens,
downfalls, and wrong people, then our perfect destiny will always be a
dream. You will stumble on the wrong
things and then when you get up you will be so lost that you take the wrong
path all together. Instead, stumble get
back up and keep it moving. Do not continue
to stumble in the same place for years.
Just like the story in the Bible.
When Moses led the Hebrews out of Egypt, the trip to the promise land
was only supposed to take 40 days. But
because of their constant unbelief, complaining, and not seeing what God wanted
them to see, it took 40 years. In that
40 years the original generation had passed away, including Moses, and did not see
the promise land. They were freed from
Egypt and everything started out okay, but stumbling so many times that they
did not quite make it to the promise land. Don’t take 40 years to get to the promise
land. Live, learn, and get through the
bad stuff as soon and gracefully as possible, so you can get your reward
sooner.
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