Okay so expectations
are a big one for use women. I used to
be one of those women that did not have expectations. My expectation first consisted of a person
that was interested in me, then to one that was cute, but as you can see from
some of the above stories this did not serve me well. Also I come to realize
that I deserve better. Now I am to the
point that I do not even entertain those that I know are not right for me. I think a large reason why I entertained
those in the past for the simple fact I was bored, I wanted to attention, or I
thought that perhaps they would grow on me and I would not want to turn down
somebody that was the one, so I just kind of gave everyone a chance.
There are women that
are paying on dates, paying for a man’s food, rent, bills, child support,
allowing him to sit on his butt all day while they go to work. I have been on dates, when the man does not
want to buy food, where the man watches me eat while they eat nothing, for the
sake of being cheap. I mean some of this
is really ridicules. If you are dating a
man like this, you need to stop and move on.
Do not pass go and do not collect $200.
That is crazy. If God is willing
to make the man the head of the household and want the wives to submit, how in
the world can that be if the man cannot or are not willing to even provide
financial for their family. Or to even
have a plan to take care of a family, and think that this is perfectly acceptable. Since when did we allow men to stop being
men, and allow them to stay in a boy state, and not grow up? I cannot even blame the men really. I blame women; it is because that we are
willing to accept any and everything from a man in order to keep a man, or say
that we have one.... therefore allowing them to slide by with nonsense.
Women need to stop making excuses for them and
allow them to be men. Let’s take the
example from above with the 42 year old man that live with his aunt and sister. So eventually he asked me to tell me what was
wrong with him, insisting that he was a nice guy, and in reality he was. But my response was this. I told him that I could not see myself
entering a relationship with him because he did not have himself together. He told me that he was living with his aunt
and sister because she was sick and had no car because it broke down. I did feel sad for a second but he was still
not the one for me. At the end of the
day, we could not really date. I would
have to come to his house, pick him up, go on the date, take him home, and
drive myself back home. His lack of motivation
of being a man was not going to work. If
he really planned on getting married, he would have to leave his aunt and his sister
anyway….or at least I hope. So if at
this point and time he felt that he could not leave their home, then there
would be not future for us. I needed
someone that was ready to be with me fully if we were to get married, and not
have reasons as to why they could not move on to the next level. So like I said, it would not have worked. If you still think that I am being mean take
a look at Ephesians 5:31 that says For this reason a man will leave his
father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh
and Genesis 2:24 that says That is
why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they
become one flesh. This is both in the
New and Old Testament, so make no mistake about what I am saying in regards to
this.
With that being said
his reasoning was an excuse to me. He
called me materialistic but its whatever, what did he want me to say. If you want more and desire more for yourself
and from your mate, do not allow then to throw that word at you. Since when did working hard so that you can
achieve goals in life and wanting the same from a man equal materialism? Since when did wanting a 42 year old man to
have a place of his own materialism? I
think of it as something natural that a grown man would want to do at that
age. But I could be wrong…(I am being
sarcastic, I am not wrong).
Some women may say it is mean, but this is
what I am talking about women, hold men accountable! I am a single mother and have worked hard in
school education wise and in other areas of my life! It was not easy, and while I wait for the one
that God has planned for me, it is still not easy, therefore expecting the same
from a male is not unreasonable. In
addition, as a 42 year old man even if he did live with his aunt because she
was sick, then what was his excuse about not having a car. To me that spells lazy. You have a job, your living with you aunt;
have minimal bills to pay, and you still have no car. What are you doing with your money? This spells immaturity, that at 42 your life
is not together, you have no career choice and you do not have your life together. For me that is a problem, and for you it
should be a problem.
I am not trying
to rag on this man. What I am trying to
do is show you how this really looks from the outside looking in for women to
chase after men that have no type of husband material. If you are in a relationship with a man like
this, let go. If you are single, then
going forward do not enter a relationship like this. For me, a single mother who I bring into my
life as a mate will eventually be around my son, he needs to be an example for
my son and exemplify what a man is supposed to be. And for him, I did not feel that he could do
that. I felt that having him in my life
would only add burden and not happiness.
If you are a single mother or for any women, when you are looking at
dating a man, really think to yourself do I want my son to grow up and be like
this man or think when I have a son do I want him to grow up and be this
man. Another question is if you would
want your daughter to marry a man like this, or if you had a daughter would you
want her to marry a man like this. If
the answer is no, then stop dating him and/or stop bringing him around your
kids.
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