God, I'm Lonely!

So many people do not understand that their relationship with God is the best relationship that you can ever have. And that if you have Him then you are never lonely.   Many people get upset because they feel like they do not have a boyfriend, girlfriend, or regular friends that they can turn to with all of their problems. Or when things hit the fan with these people, they fall into self pity claiming they have no one that is on their side.  My response to this, is very simple and it is something that I had to learn over time.

People will let you down.  I do not care how many friends you have or what relationships you are in, you cannot expect other people to be perfect.  There are so many people in this world that sit and cry day in and day out over the fact that they feel they have no one there for them.  There is a point in this ideology, and that is no one can be there for you the way that God is there for you.  No one can fill the void in your heart, the way God can fill the void in your heart.

So why are you out here chasing a man or women, looking for the perfect friend, or crying day in and day out and telling God that you are lonely? God will sometimes sit there silent not giving you the response that you want, because He is just waiting for you to come to one realization that is He (God) is the only real relationship that you need.

So when you feel that people are letting you down and no one can be what you want them to be, God is screaming to your spirit telling you that He is that person. God is justing putting you in the position of loneliness to make you realize this.  Some of us continually walk around in ignorance and self pity asking God why He is allowing other people to hurt you.



But the thing is, He is not allowing anything, you are.  People have free will and they are going to do whatever it is they want to do, but you cannot allow their shortcomings or downfalls affect your mood.  Because while you are at home on a Friday night complaining how no one loves you and how are you are all alone, God is just sitting there waiting for you to realize that He is there and not only does He want to talk to you, but He wants to be the friend, husband, or wife that you are looking for.

When I explain the way I have conversations with God, so many people find this mind blowing.  That is that I can talk to God about anything and that He in fact talks back to me.  Through everything that I do and everything that I am, I talk to God continually throughout the day to get His feedback on everything.

And guess what? He talks back to me to give me a perspective that only He can give.  So why are so many of us looking for other people to fulfill our loneliness?  Why are we are looking for things that can only be fulfilled through God?  Often times we get so upset about what other people have done or are doing to or for us.  Do you not know who your father is?  Do you not understand that He is perfect and has a perfect perspective and will tell you anything you need to know provided that He can trust you with the information.

Prayer does not have to be some formal ritual that is only said before meals and bed.  It is simple conversation with God.  He loves when you tell Him your frustrations, your shortcomings, your expectations, and how you feel you have failed.  He loves to hear all the things that you cannot tell other people.  After all, He knows everything that is in your heart..  He is so tired of you trying to hide it from him and claiming that you are alone when in fact He has and never will leave you or forsake you.  So many of us have such a detached perspective of God, that we do not understand that we are never alone.  No matter how alone we feel God is with us.  He wants us to talk to Him and more importantly, He wants to fix it.  He is not going to force Himself on us, He wants us to come to Him freely so that you can see who is God and that He is above and beyond any body that is here on Earth.  This is so that we can understand not to put our trust in people, but to put it in Him.  And through this trust knowledge you will have a peace that suppresses all understanding.  You can be single, alone, broke, hurt, crying, or dead on the inside.  But God is there and He wants to fix it. He just wants you to come to Him and give Him permission to fix it.

In closing, you are never alone.  God is always with you, He can be a boyfriend, father, mother, girlfriend, wife, husband, provider, lover, friend, all that you ever wanted.  Soon you will find that nothing in this world can disappoint you, because you know who you belong to, and that is God.  God is the king of kings and therefore as his child you are a rightful heir to his throne, and He can give you anything.  Just spend time with God.  Talk to Him and understand His will for you life.  Once you do, the things of the world will not upset you so much.  You will not feel lonely.  You will feel loved and complete though the one who knows you and ordained your existence.



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Waiting On God

By Sophia Reed MSHS

What I have come to learn through my own personal experiences, and through encouraging others, is that waiting can be one of the easiest and hardest things you can do.  This is because; it requires that nothing be done on your part and requires that you watch other people pass you by while you feel your life is being put on hold.  The crazy thing about waiting for God to do something or the things that He has promised you, is no matter how you try to bring about the promise on your own, it is just not going to work. You will fail through your own efforts, sometimes causing you more anguish and more anger toward God.

Through trying to force God’s hand, you may pray more, invest more, work more, spend more time, fast more, network more, believe more, or yell at God in attempts to make Him respond faster.  But at the end of the day, none of it is going to work because God’s timing is God’s timing.  How many of us ( I know I have) have tried to bargain with God or try to give Him advice on how to make something happen faster or better than what you think He has in mind.  This concept is funny because as I go through this process with God, He reminds me that He has thousands and thousands of years of hearing people moan and groan about waiting on His timing. He further reminds me that I can complain all I want to, but He won’t change His mind nor is my complaining bothering Him in the very least.


When you are waiting on God to do something or to fulfill a promise (i.e. a healing, marriage, job, career, money, direction, etc.).  You can know that you know that you know, that God has promised you these things, but still after days, weeks, months, or years, you do not see what He has promised you manifest.  Then in our human nature, we go into the mode of self-pity and sulking, wondering why God is doing this to us, punishing us, hurting us, hoping that God will put us out of our misery by bringing about what He promised.  When all the while God is sitting on His throne, not giving a care about our little temper tantrum. As a matter of fact, He probably finds it a bit comical.

God cares about us and He cares about our pain, but he can really care less if we are stretched thin or if we feel like we are on the brink of insanity while we are waiting for Him.  This feeling that we are going through is actually what God prefers!!! Yes!! God wants you to go through things.  Not to stay in them and fail, but to come out and win. James 1:3 states “because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance” and to further my point Roman 5:4 states “and perseverance, proves character; and proven character, builds hope.”



This means that when you go through things and trust God to see you through, you build faith every time.  For example, if you are waiting on God for a husband and as you wait, instead of getting mad you trusted God you chose to grow closer to Him.  You will learn what attributes to look for in a husband because you will know to look for ones that mirror God.  The only way you will come to know the attributes that mirror God, is to spend time with Him.

If you are trusting God for a job and through all your efforts, have no way of making an income.  Trust God, He will make something out of nothing.  And even though you may not live in a way in which you are accustomed, all the things that you need will be provided for.  It is through God providing for us, and guiding us in the hardship, that we come to learn that we can trust God for anything and that in fact “He will never leave us nor forsake us” Hebrews 13:5,6.  So you see waiting for God is not to make you suffer; it is not because God is ignoring you, it is because of the opposite, He wants you to grow as a person and grow as a Christian.  So do not consider this as a burden even though it may feel like one, it’s actually a blessing and God’s way of telling you that you are growing in your faith.

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Every man that bats an eye at you does not deserve your time.

In this episode I encourage women to stop being so desperate for a man a think what man is good for them over just any man that approaches them.  I will talk about the dangers of just letting any man in your space and how doing so can not only waste your time but can cause to fustration andmuch time wasted on a man that was worth you time in the first place.  I will teach to learn how to recognize this man and avoid him.

Listen now at.

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/sophiareedmft/2014/03/24/every-man-that-bats-an-eye-at-you-does-not-deserve-your-time

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So you call yourself a Christian? 03/10 by Real Advice For Everyday Use | Spirituality Podcasts

So you call yourself a Christian? 03/10 by Real Advice For Everyday Use | Spirituality Podcasts



Airing at 11pm.



The thing that make Christians different is they believe is Jesus as the son of God.  So many time because we know if we repent we will be forgiven.  But just because we can repent it does not give the right to continue to sin in God's face intentionally and call it okay.  In this episode I will challenge everything you thought being a Christian was and encourage you to have a personal relationship with God.  Not just calling yourself a Christian as a safeway to do what you want.  Narrow is the path to heaven and wide is the path to hell.  Learn to know what type of behavior will get you where.  


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How To Successfully Deal With Being Single 03/07 by Real Advice For Everyday Use | Spirituality Podcasts

How To Successfully Deal With Being Single 03/07 by Real Advice For Everyday Use | Spirituality Podcasts





Tune in tonight for my show at 11pm.  And if you miss it all shows are archived so you can listen anytime.



Summary of tonights episode.


Often times people see being single as being incomplete and as a curse.  The end result is feeling inadequent in your own life and not being content with yourself.  In this episode I will talk about the positive things about being single.  I will also talk about ways to cope with your singleness so that you actually feel happy with being yourself and your single life.  Being single is not a curse and often times married people wish they were single again or wish they enjoyed their single life more.  Learn how to embrace your singleness and how doing so can prepare you for being married. Tune in. 

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Blog Talk Radio Topic Taking a Look At the Recent Role Reversal of Men and Women Airing 3/6/14

I have launch my new station on Blog Talk Radio named Real Life Advice For Everyday Use.

Episode Number 2 will be airing 3/6/14 at 12pm.

Topic: Taking a Look At the Recent Role Reversal of Men and Women

Link: blogtalkradio.com/sophiareed

In this episode I will discuss the changing of the roles between men and women.  This includes women taking a more active role in being the pursuer in the relationship and men taking the more passive role in the relationship.  In this episode,  examples will be given in which men no longer feel comfortable taking on roles in which they have taken on in the past.  Also being discussed is the impact that role reversals have on current relationships and how women can learn to be women again and defining what a true man and women  is expected to be according to the Bible.

Do not forget to check out my first episode, an intro of my channel, intro of myself, and excerpts from my book.

 Episode 1 Summary

Link: blogtalkradio.com/sophiareed

The first episode is about why I decided to get into the field of counseling and how I incorporate my Christian values with my education.  A introduction of my background, my book, and what inspired me to write it.  This episode focuses on the changing of women and encourages women to reflect on their on behavior for their relationship failures.  



The first episode is about why I decided to get into the field of counseling and how I incorporate my Christian values with my education.  A introduction of my background, my book, and what inspired me to write it.  This episode focuses on the changing of women and encourages women to reflect on their on behavior for their relationship failures.

Do Not Forget to check out my book.  The Book information and trailer is in the book tab.

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So Your An Internet Model, So is Every Girl On the Internet. Stop Disrespecting Yourself!

　　As a mother and a woman, I have found a reoccurring theme among women that is sadly disappointing me.  With the prevalence of social media, it would seem that some women have lost all of their senses, self dignity, and commence to becoming “models” on the internet.  When I refer to models, many normal pictures I do not have a problem with, provided that you have clothes on and appear respectable.  What I am referring to is women appearing spread eagle on Instagram so that you can see so far up their vag, that their cervix is showing.  Now this may offend some people, but I think it needs to be said.  I am all for loving your body as art as the next, but somethings as a woman, mother, and wife just need to end.
　　
　　I was on a Facebook profile recently only to see this mother having naked pictured publicly displayed for all the world to see.  What made it worse was that she was proud to have her breast, butt, and vagina out showing.  I pondered what goes through the mind of women like this.  Do they honestly think their kids are proud of them or that their children would be proud to show their mother off with half her body showing?  What example do they think this sends to their daughter or son?
　　
　　It really saddens me how some of these women think today.   They feel they have nothing going on aside from their body they can succeed at, and the only way they can have attention is by appearing naked on the internet and not even getting paid for doing this.  Guess what women, if you do not get paid to “model” then you are not one.  I am not against models as long as it is done tastefully.  What I am against is women exploiting themselves and feeling like they have achieved some level of success, by being naked online and having a few thousand followers.
　　
　　As I look at social media today I see pictures of drinks, partying, and women passed out in public with their legs open.  Since when did this become popular culture.  I am not against partying or drinking, but to do it almost every night and post an excess of pictures about it is disrespectful to the woman; and the sad thing is they do not even know it.


　　
　　I cannot express into words how much of a disrespect and disservice women do to themselves.  Although this may seem “cute” now, in a few years when you are looking for a husband, will he think your half naked drunk pictures are “cute” and someone he wants to wife up?  When you have children or when your children gets older and their friends look at their mother’s social media pages will your naked body plastered all over the internet be cute then?
　　
　　Us women complain about men so much, stating that they are only after one thing.  But did the woman stop to think, the only thing that is being offered is one thing.  Men have become socially inept.  They no longer want to take women out on dates or even have conversations outside of sex. Because sex is what they are use to and they think this is all the woman has to offer.  By the time they see a women in person, they have seen what her entire body already looks like just by browsing her Facebook page.  Therefore, why even try to to impress her, she is offering her vagina up on silver platter for the taking, no need to work for anything.
　　
　　Until us women start seeing ourselves as better then men are not going to see us as better.  And it needs to be done as a whole.  Because as it stands, men see it as what this woman won’t do, the next one will.  So even those women who try to have standards get bypassed because the man sees it as too much work and can just move on to the half naked model on the side.
　　
　　There is nothing wrong with being beautiful or having self confidence in yourself.  It is wrong when you feel like posing naked is all you have and that your naked body plastered on social media is your claim to fame.  Proverbs 31:3- states that charm can be deceiving and beauty fades away.  Meaning that just because you are beautiful now or have a nice body now, does not mean it is going to be that way in 20 years.  And when that times comes, because it will come, you are going to need to have something going on in your brain that says “I am worth something.”
　　
　　For those who are like this thinking that you already have a man and that he does not mind you showing all your goods to the world.  Let me tell you a secret.  That is not a real man.  No real man is going to want to share his woman’s body to the world.  The only thing he sees your as is what you present yourself to be, and that is an object or a toy that he wants to show off.  No real man would want his girlfriend, wife, or mother of his children to show her charms for every Tom, Dick, and Harry to see.  Women need to start  to know their worth and have a bigger purpose in life and more aspirations, asides from posing naked on the internet.
　　
　　Do not forget my book Waiting For a Man After God’s Own Heart, Encouragement for Women and Single’s Mothers is now on Amazon.  Click on the Book tab for more information.

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Use of the N-Word by Those Who are not Black. Its never Okay!

This topic is something that is going to be controversial and is something that is near and dear to me.  This topic really stemmed from a recent event in which a celebrity Madonna used to the word “nigga” to describe her white son.  Upon further research I found that in 2011 Barbera Walters used the words “nigger” to report on a certain subject matter in which the word was being used.  I do not feel either of these women are racist, but, in both cases they did not understand the outrage by blacks with the use of this words, since they did not use it as a racist term.

Surfing the internet, I was shock to find that the word “nigga” was openly being used by white people as a term of endearment.  What was even more shocking, is that they saw nothing wrong with this and could not understand the outrage of blacks.  Culturally, I think that for the most part, the majority of blacks would say that it is never okay for someone that is not black to use this word.  I am in the majority and agree with this.  I do not care how you use it, how you mean it, it is just not okay.

I do not know if I could ever try to explain this to those that are not black, but I will seek to try.  The term “nigga” stemmed from the word “nigger.”  As we know the word “nigger” was used in slaves times and beyond to be used toward blacks as a derogatory term.  Throughout time the term “nigger” has be transformed to “negro” to described black people (this word often not seen as derogatory) and then transformed by blacks into the term “nigga” to be used as a term of endearment.  So you may asked, if “nigga” is a term of endearment, why can’t it be used by others races without black people getting offended?

As I explained above, for blacks our history of this words is so rich.  We have been called “niggers” as a way to downgrade us, and the black race is the one that has decided to transform the word.   It upsets black people so much when others use it because we feel that they have not earned the right.  They do not know what it is like to be a “nigger” and therefore cannot understand the way in which we use it now as “nigga.”  Because no matter what, even to this day if a white person was to call me “nigger” it would offend me highly.  As a matter of fact when I was 8 years old a white boy spit in my face and called me a “nigger” in which I commenced to whopping his tail.  But my point is if another white person was to call another white person “nigger” it would hold no weight with them.  They would shrugged it off, because they are not black.  The reason being is because they have not gone through the “nigger” history and so for them they can never get a full understanding of the new transformed word “nigga.”  So for blacks, it is apart of our history in what we have gone through.  From being called “nigger,” to “negro,” and now “nigga.”  Since whites and other races have not shared the full history of the word, blacks now feel that cannot share in the transformation of the word.  And many see it as disrespect to those who try.  Myself included.  I hope this explains the use of the word to other races that may not understand where use blacks are coming from.  And how the use of the word outside of our race, even when used as a term of endearment, is not okay.

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The only person that can make you feel bad about yourself is you.

Anyone who knows me, knows that I am going to wear what I want and I do not care what anyone has to say about it.  However, I have noticed a recent changing of women who allow other people (namely man) dictate to them how to look, what they wear, and how they wear it.  So much so, that the women actually start to get paranoid and feel bad about them self, because of what a man says.  I have seen women be afraid to post picture because of the criticism they may get.  I have seen women afraid to pick out an outfit for being fearful or weather “he” may like or not.  I personally think that this is utterly and completely bonkers.  No one can make you feel inadequate about yourself, unless you allow it.

I want to tell you a secret women.  Sometimes men will intentional judge you, pick with you about what you are wearing, or mock your appearance, so they can try to get control of you.  The only reason why they criticize you, is because they want to see how you are going to react.  They want to see if you are going to take off those pants  they told you were ugly or if you are going to tell them to kick rocks.  The moment you start bending and transforming into what other people want you to be, is the moment you give control of yourself to someone else.

In regards to your overall wellbeing.  Self esteem is the center of it.  When a man looks at you, they can tell how low you feel about yourself and the men who prey off that type of woman will be drawn right to you.  I once watched a movie about a serial killer.  He openly admitted to picking women that had low self esteem, because it was easy to get over on them.  And he was a serial killer!  The moral of this story is do not let anyone tell you about your self, do not let anyone make you feel bad about yourself,   do not let anyone tell you what you can be or can’t be, and most of all do not let anyone make you feel ugly or sub par.  The only person that should be able to affect the way you feel about yourself is you.  If you are in a relationships were a man puts you down.  Get out, get out now!! That is not love, it is just his way of having control over you.  And last but not least, until you feel good about yourself, no one is is going to feel good about you.  You get what you put you out.

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5 New Year Resolutions For Singles

　　Going into a New Year and you are single. It's not the worst thing that could happen. Instead of making resolutions you won't stick to, try these easy resolutions that can make your year as a single a whole lot better. 　


　
1. Out with the Old and in with the New.  This does just a “ New Year” phrase, but can be a statement in regards to your relationships.  If a person is not is not in your present, then there is a reason for that.  Stop trying to figure out why they are not there, stop trying to bring the bad relationships karma with you into future relationships, and stop trying to figure out what you did wrong.  Because whatever the answer to those questions may be, it does not matter.  All that matters is the present and moving froward.  So if you are stuck on past people or relationships, do not let that drama come with you into the new year.  Let it go.

　　2.　Make a resolution that makes you better.  You can always make a resolution not to be single.  But look at the reasons that are keeping you from a relationship.  Look at making a resolutions that makes you a better and make you feel more confident.  This could be working out, taking classes, or taking better care of your health.  A better feeling you, means that your confidence level will soar through the roof, and people around you will notice.  And you never know, being a better you, may attract a better person.

　　3.　Get out, get up, and go somewhere.  If you are constantly visiting the same bars, clubs, and places.  And your still single.  Then guess what, it may be time for a change.  If the places that you were going to didn’t work out so well, why not step out of your comfort zone and try something or somewhere different.  One thing that borders on the side of being uncool, is when you walk in the bar and everyone knows your name.  They know what you are going to order, they know all about your personal business, and because you frequent there so much the bar tender gave you a Christmas card for the holidays.  Its a little lame.  Try a little change of scenery.

　　4　Dress up.  Dressing up can be an underestimated thing.  I dare you to go outside with no make up on, sweats, and looking like the hot mess express and see how much attention you get.  Then I dare you to look your finest meaning make up, perfume, and putting some thought into your appearance.  It is not just about other people that will notice you because of your appearance.  But looking your best also makes you feel good about yourself.  And when you feel good about yourself.  Other people take notice as well.

　　5.　Don't Worry be Happy.  If you are going into the new year single.  Don’t fret and get all upset and depressed about it.  Enjoy your life anyway.  Weather you are having a dinner for one or two, just be joyful.  If you are a depressed single, then what makes you think that someone else is magically going to make you happy.  Other people do not make you happy.  You make yourself happy, and allow the other person to add on to your awesome package of happiness.  Often times, when people see you are happy on your own, they are more open to being in a relationships with you, because they assume that you are not going to be Debbie Downer the whole time.

So if you are going into the new year single.  Fret not.  It is not the end of the world.  Just enjoy your life, and your New Year resolution should be to make your life better than it was last year.  Weather you are with someone or not.

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Top 5 Quotes My Book Waiting For A Man After God’s Own Heart Ch. 12-14

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1. Do you think it is easy for me, being a single mother, going to school full time (graduate school at that), or working on other things that God wants me to do (including this book)?  Do you think it was easy always listening to God even when I did not want to, humbling myself to those who hate me, curse me, and want to see me fail? Or being the type of person that God wants me to be; dying to my own wants to follow God’s wants for me? Do you think I am telling you these things, because life is easy for me? It is not easy, it is hard, but I do it because I know this is what God wants me to do.  I do it so I can share my story and motivate others.  I do it because I know that this is what I need to do so God can give me what He has in store for me.

2. If you have seen the show Who the Bleep Did I Marry?  It is your job to verify things people tell you.  It doesn’t take much effort to do this.  If a person says they are a doctor when you talk to them, ask them little things about their job.  Check out whether they know what they are talking about.  Get them to be specific.  Do not come across like prying or like you are interrogating. Come across as you are asking them about their life. Which is what you should be doing anyway.  If someone says they are a teacher and they do not know how to spell or type properly when they are messaging you, be suspicious.

3. I am not trying to sit here and pretend like everything is all good and easy because it is not.  Am I tired of waiting?  YES!!!! Do wonder why everyone else is being blessed with a husband and I am not? YES!!! But at the end of the day, I could sit on my behind all day and wait or I can do what God has told me to do and wait. Either way, I am going to wait. I mine as well be productive while I do it. You never know, perhaps God is just waiting for you to sow so many seeds before He brings you the right one.  So this is why you have to plant those seeds, get a plow (a big and heavy one that is hard to push) and begin sowing.

4. I can recall I made this mistake in talking to someone I knew did not meet the things that I wanted in man.  He even requested me on Facebook.  I was shocked to see every time he posted something it consisted of atheist and anti-God comments.  Upon viewing his page, he had just broken up with his girlfriend two days ago before joining the dating site.  Needless to say he needed to get off of my profile and friend list.

5.  Maybe you can call me crazy, but I prefer to be crazy then to waste my time on someone that blatantly lied about something that was so simple and not worth lying about. I guess once I said I had an interview at the school; he changed his story and told me that he was a program manager.  He told me that a program manager was the same thing as a principal trying to cover his tracks.  This once again was not true. I don’t like liars so I did not want to bother. I felt that Oliver lied to boost himself up in my eyes.  More than likely to draw me in, thinking I would think that he had money, fall for him, and sleep with him.  If he intended on having a long term relationship then why would he have lied about his job? If I was going to be his girlfriend, then I would have eventually found out anyway.  The only conclusion to draw is that when a man lies about something as simple as this, then he did not plan on having me around very long to find out what he really did.

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Sophia Reed is a single mother and the author of this book.  Like many women Sophia found herself getting involved in one terrible relationship after the next in attempts to find a “good” man. From her son’s father being incarcerated to engaging in a relationship with a man, who ultimately caused her to loose her job and almost caused her to loose her brand new home. Sophia has seemingly been through and seen it all.  

Even through her chaos, the author still sought to do everything right in the eyes of God.  This includes getting a master’s degree, pursuing a Ph.d, and raising her son the best way she knows how.  Through the difficulties of relationships, the unexpected curve balls in life, and angry conversations with God; Sophia still stayed focused.  She learned to let go of the bad men and learn that being single is not the worst thing in the world.

In the pages of this book, you will laugh, cry, and have hope.  You will read her downfalls, shortcomings, receive encouragement, and see a personal transformation made possible by God. The title Waiting for a Man After God’s Own Heart was inspired by a phrase used in the Bible to describe King David.  David was imperfect, a polygamist, and an adulterer who made mistakes along the way. David was also known as one of the greatest men in the Bible for his unshakable faith.  The point is that even though we are not perfect, if we keep our eyes focused on God, He can redeem us.

In this book, the author encourages you never to give up hope that the right man is out there for you.  She encourages you to wait for a man after God’s Own Heart, or for one who has already captured it. 

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Let Your Haters Be Your Motivators.

And those people were the “haters.”  I think so often times we get caught up in our “haters” bringing us down, that we let people deter us from our dream.  When I refer to “haters”  I mean the people that were jealous of you, who talked down to you, and tried to stop you along the way of your journey.  For myself, whenever I encountered them it did not want to make me quit, but it only wanted to make me push harder.  I wanted to show them, that if I wanted to do something no matter what they did, what they said, or how they tried to stop me; they would not have any affect on me or what I was trying to do.  The best way that I know how to do that, was to work harder and succeed. 

As I was completing my book Waiting for a Man After God’s Own Heart.  I came to the acknowledgment section of my book.  

I thought to myself “who is it that I can thank the most that push me to finish my book,” which had been a long term goal for me.  After giving Thanks to God, it became very clear to be the various people that helped me want to finish my book and pursue my aspirations and dreams.  

I hate when I hear or see people give up for the simple that their “dream” was not handed to them on a silver platter.  So many of us, allow people to talk down to us and make us think that we cannot do something, after we had already made up in our minds we could. 

If someone tells you that you cannot do or be what you want.  That does not mean give up.  That means use their negative words as your strength, prove them wrong, and succeed anyway.  After all, if you give up on your dream then that would only mean that you were proving them right.  Therefore, I encourage you to look at having “haters” in a different way.  Having haters does not mean that you will not succeed, it does mean that you are not good enough, it only means that you are doing your job right.  

If other people did not feel intimidated by you or threatened by what you were doing, Then they would not care to say anything to you.  The fact that they want to hate and tear you down, only means you are doing you are doing something that causes for their attention.  When no one cares or is worried about what you are doing, then you should be worried. As an example is that the most influential people in the world today,  have people that talk about them daily.  

I have come to learn, that when you reach the level of success you desire, people are only going to come at you harder.  Therefore, to have haters on the minor level, only means that you are preparing to have them on a bigger level.  So do not let the haters be your discouragers.  Let them be your motivation to succeed.  Just to give you an idea of a note to my “haters.”  I will give you an excerpt from my acknowledgment in my book.  

　“Last, but certainly not least.  I would like to thank the haters, people who did me wrong, and those who never thought I would amount to anything.  It is through their negative energy and words that made me want to push harder and make liars out of them.  If God told me to do something, what makes anyone think they can stand in my way.  I thank those who did not believe, because it helped me show them that with the power of God, all things are possible.” 

　In  closing I say this.  Let your hater be your motivators, who cares what they think.  Keep going.  Its not like they like you anyway.  The biggest revenge that you have against them, is to prove them wrong. 

Waiting for A Man’s After God’s Own Heart
is now available through on e-book for  $2.99  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00HNAB1YY

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