By Sophia Reed MSHS Coming Early 2014
1. If you truly repent then you repent to God without the intent of doing it again. So having sex, repenting, and then doing it again the following day or week is not true repentance. Now if you truly repent and you truly accidentally mess up, then God understands that we make mistakes. But this must truly be an accident and Gods know your heart. There is no fooling him and pretending that you accidentally had sex after you told God that you were not going to, and knowing that you should not have taken that man up on the offer to cuddle in his bed with no clothes on. Then when sex happens you see it as an accident because you only intended to cuddle. I don’t think so. Let’s be real. This is setting yourself up for failure.
2. I have also learned that when you have sex before marriage, sometimes it actually makes a man drag his feet in marrying you. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free right? When a man looks at you, he has to think “why I should marry this person. What is going to be different from marrying this person that I do not get now?” Well sex is one of the main things, and I am confident that when a man truly gets to know you outside of sex then it is easier for them to want to wife you up.
3. The reason why I bring this is up is because there are so many women who abandon their children to be with men or even put men over their children. Even looking at news stories some of these women are willing to kill their own children over a man or allow a man to abuse their children. Something is really wrong with this picture. First off, if a man allows you to continually put off your children to be with him, this is not real man. A man that talks down to your children, talks bad about your children, does not like your children, or does not want to be around your children; is not the man for you.
4. Another thing that I want to speak to single mothers about is not having you kids look like a hot mess. There is no sense for you to wear all these name brand clothes and your 5 year old child running around in a pull up, with a snotty nose, and a shirt 3 sizes two small. Please stop the madness! Take care of you children. Like I mentioned above when a man sees you all dressed up and your kids looking like a hot mess they do not think “look at that hot woman and her little misfit let me approach her.” They think how you are trifling and are selfish to have all new clothes and you children looking like little orphan Annie.