Whenever I have a question about life, I always refer to the Bible to look for God’s point on view on things. As I think about this topic I was lead to several Biblical examples.
The first I would start with is Adam and Eve. I am sure Adam was wandering around the garden of Eden looking all lonely and what not when God said
“It is not good for man to be alone.” Genesis 2:18
This is when he created Eve. When Adam saw Eve he was filled with such excitement that he began to sing (note the rhythmic changing in the Bible verses indicates singing).
He then declares “now this is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh.” Genesis 2:23
It would appear that Eve was meant for him. Which I guess one could assume seeing how she was the only other human being on Earth, they would have to have been meant for one another.
But then I refer to my favorite books of the Bible, Esther and Ruth.
In both of these relationships, it would seem that God had to have had a hand in it. In the case of Esther, after the King banished Vashti from his presence, he began to look for a new queen. If you read the book of Esther you will see that once Esther was brought to the castle that she won the favor of everyone who saw her. When she finally met the queen the
“Now the king was attracted to Esther more than to any of the other women, and she won his favor and approval more than any of the other virgins. So he set a royal crown on her head and made her queen instead of Vashti.” Esther 2:17
The book of Esther goes on to say that of course she saved the Jews from annihilation and even Mordecai (her uncle) told Esther
“And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?” Esther 4:14
It would seem like God had ordained this relationship from the very beginning. Not just for a marriage but so Esther could do God’s works the the position that she had been given.
Therefore, I would think that the King was Esther's “one.” Could there be any other two people that could have loved each other and accomplished God’s task? Often the King would tell Esther that whatever she wanted it would be given to her up to half of the kingdom. And because the king loved her this way, she would have a hand in saving the Jews.
If it had been anyone else, do you think the same task would have been accomplished? Or do you think because God had a hand in their relationships by ordaining it, that her influence over the King was something only she could have?
Now lets go to Ruth. After her first husband dies she followed her mother and law Naomi back to her homeland. There she would begin to work and toil hard in the field. I am sure she looked like a hot mess while doing it. But even under these circumstances she was noticed by Boaz, the owner of the field.
When you follow both the book of Esther and the book of Ruth. Each step they took would appear to be planned, a strategic order of things that lead them to the men they were supposed to marry.
The last example I would point out is Issac and Rebekah . Abraham sent out his servant to find his son Issac a wife. As the man began to search, he prayed. He ask God to show him a sign:
“May it be that when I say to a young woman, ‘Please let down your jar that I may have a drink,’ and she says, ‘Drink, and I’ll water your camels too’—let her be the one you have chosen for your servant Isaac. By this I will know that you have shown kindness to my master.’ Before he had finished praying, Rebekah came out with her jar on her shoulder.” Genesis 24: 14-15
And Rebekah did what the servant prayed. There is no denying that this was the women in which God intended Issac to marry.
The point that I want to get at, is I do feel we all have free will to do and marry whoever we want. But what happens if we just follow the example of those in the Bible and let God find the person for us. Instead of taking it into our own hands, what if we believed that God had someone planned for us. What if we set on going about our everyday work, following God’s path for us until the one He has for us comes into our lives?
I personally do feel there is a one. And just like in all of these cases, the one is just not for our benefit, but the for God’s benefit. And if God can orchestrate all of the above situations even in the midst of hardship. Then surely He can do it for you.
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