Sunday, July 6, 2014

5 Myths About Getting into Relationships.

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Anyone who knows me, knows I feel you should embrace your singleness.  This is not that I feel women should be happy being single forever, but since you are already single I never feel you should get all bent out of shape about it.

There are many myths single people feel would happen when they get into relationships.  So I am listing these myths, in order to burst your bubble to give singles out there a new reason to embrace their singleness.

1. Getting into a relationship to complete you.

This is not true.  If you are looking for a relationship to complete you, you are in for a serious disappointment.  It is never good to put all of your eggs in one basket and expect someone else to make you happy.

Make yourself happy first and then look for someone to add to you.  See my blog here for more information on this topic.

 2. You will always have someone to talk to.

This may be somewhat true in relationships.  But if you ever been in a relationships you know that sometimes you can feel like you cannot talk to the person you are with or they may not care what you have to say.  I will be honest in admitting that I am the one in the relationship that sometimes does not care what you have to say.  Its not being mean, but I do not want to hear all of your problems all of the time.

Therefore, I know if it bothers me, then it bothers other people too. I would hate for a single women to get disappointed and get into relationships thinking it is a free for all for them to talk all the time about their emotions.

Most of the time men really do not care what we are talking about nor do they like to give their input like we want them too.  If this is your sole purpose for wanting to be in a relationship.  I recommend finding a good friend to fulfill this need for you.

3. Because You are Lonely

There are plenty of married people and people that are in relationships who still feel lonely.  Relationships are not a cure for loneliness.  In marriage, people have careers, children, and other duties they may attend to that keep them from their spouse and keep them feeling lonely.

As a Christian, you are never lonely, you always have God to talk to.  The good thing about Him is He is always available to talk at anytime of the day and He gives you the answer you need for any situation (see my blog here for more on this topic).

4. You will Always be Happy.

In a good relationships you will be happy most of the time.  In a bad relationship it will not only leave you unhappy but it will cause you to have depression, frustration, and anger.  Even in the best relationships there are going to be ups and downs.  No relationship is going to make you happy 100% of the time.

There will be good times, but there will also be bad as well.  It is better to accept this fact instead of believing that relationships will be a walk in the park.  Being in a relationships is learning how to deal with the good and bad, and still being able to love your partner.

5. It Will Fix All Of Your Problems.

I think you can pretty much sum up all of these tips with the fact that relationships are not going to fix all of your problems  In fact, if you get into a relationships and you are all jacked up on your own, then all a relationship is going to do is jack you up even more.

If you are needy, depressed, or attention seeking, you are still going to be all of these things weather you are with someone or not.  The only thing being in a relationships is going to do is magnify these problems for you.  Not fix them.

With this being said.  The only solution is not only to be content in your singleness, but to also be content with yourself.  It is only when this happens, will you be able to have the right mind and get into a relationships that is best suited for you.

Other Blogs Recommended For this Topic:

Tackle Your Relationships Demons                         How To Spot Mr. Wrong
Thou Shall Not Covet Other People's Relationships, Because They Suck!
Being Single is Not A Death Sentence.

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